The following list of psychological resources can be considered a fairly comprehensive wetware (mind/brain) upgrade—human 2.0. Enjoy the journey!
Honoring the Self by Nathaniel Branden
The Six Pillars Of Self-Esteem by Nathaniel Branden
Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life by Marshall B. Rosenberg
Complete Liberty Inside Out: Honoring Yourself and Others for Optimal Enrichment by Wes Bertrand
free downloads: http://completeliberty.com/complete-liberty-inside-out/
Trauma and Memory: Brain and Body in a Search for the Living Past: A Practical Guide for Understanding and Working with Traumatic Memory by Peter A. Levine Ph.D. (Author), Bessel A. van der Kolk M.D. (Foreword)
My favorite psychotherapeutic workbook, which involves sentence completion exercises, or "sentence stems"—for getting acquainted with and respectfully integrating your vast subconscious mind and emotions—is The Art of Self-Discovery by Nathaniel Branden. This book is slated to be back in print, including in digital format (as will some other books by Dr. Branden), so the following unofficial digital version will be replaced by links to it at http://nathanielbranden.com:
Another sentence-stem workbook by Branden that's available in ebook and is similar in scope is How To Raise Your Self-Esteem
Shows covering Nathaniel Branden's Six Pillars Of Self-Esteem that I did with my friend Brett on his School Sucks Podcast with some additional content of my own, including an eight episode on "the seventh pillar":
Episode 199 - The practice of living consciously
Episode 200 - The practice of self-acceptance
Episode 201 - The practice of self-responsibility
Episode 202 - The practice of self-assertiveness
Episode 203 - The practice of living purposefully
Episode 204 - The practice of personal integrity
Episode 205 - Nurturing a child's self-esteem and Self-esteem in the schools
Episode 206 - The philosophy of self-esteem and the seventh pillar
An inspiring book about child psychology (my favorite):
The Secret of Childhood by Maria Montessori
My friend Kevin and I did a six-part series on Nathaniel Branden's Six Pillars Of Self-Esteem for our Healthy Mind Fit Body Podcast: The Practice of Living Consciously ; The Practice of Self-Acceptance ; The Practice of Self-Responsibility ; The Practice of Self-Assertiveness ; The Practice of Living Purposely ; The Practice of Personal Integrity
Also on the HMFB podcast, we covered the nature of the "inner critics" through the lens of Internal Family Systems (IFS) therapy in a short-form series:
As noted in the last episode of Self-leadership, IFS therapy seeks empathetic understanding of various mental parts and their eventual integration, which manifests as the 8 Cs:
On Complete Liberty Podcast, I read the 1970 book by Branden titled Breaking Free, which relates his experiences with clients in a group therapy setting involving issues from their childhoods and their present-day impact:
The last series of episodes that I did on the podcast involved the nature of childhood trauma within the paradigm of our domination culture, and some of the ways to heal from it:
Between Parent and Teenager by Haim Ginott, who was a friend of Nathaniel Branden and well-versed in parenting techniques
"Most parenting guides begin with the question 'How can we get kids to do what they're told?'—and then proceed to offer various techniques for controlling them. In this truly groundbreaking book, nationally respected educator Alfie Kohn begins instead by asking 'What do kids need—and how can we meet those needs?' What follows from that question are ideas for working with children rather than doing things to them."
Unconditional Parenting: Moving from Rewards and Punishments to Love and Reason by Alfie Kohn
I recorded a fifteen-part series on Kohn's Unconditional Parenting for my Complete Liberty Podcast: one, two, three, four, five, six, seven, eight, nine, ten, eleven, twelve, thirteen, fourteen, fifteen.
A Theory of Objectivist Parenting by Roslyn Ross
Below are some books largely oriented around the premise of win/win, collaborative, “power-with” relationships (rather than a premise of win/lose, or lose/lose (compromise) and power-over relationships):
Parenting From Your Heart: Sharing The Gifts of Compassion, Connection, and Choice by Inbal Kashtan
Respectful Parents, Respectful Kids: 7 Keys To Turn Family Conflict Into Cooperation by Sura Hart
Heart To Heart Parenting: Empower Your Child Empower Yourself by Robin Grille
Parenting From The Inside Out by Daniel Siegel and Mary Hartzell
Raising Our Children, Raising Ourselves: Transforming Parent-Child Relationships From Reaction And Struggle To Freedom, Power And Joy by Naomi Aldort
Parent Effectiveness Training: The Proven Program For Raising Responsible Children by Thomas Gordon
Various Nonviolent Communication (NVC) resources:
A wonderfully comprehensive and instructive description (thanks to Jim and Jori Manske) of the various facets of consciousness and how we can transition within each, i.e., Unskilled -> Awakening -> Capable -> Integrated:
Pathways to Self-Liberation Self-Assessment
A succinct online guide:
the highly recommended 3-hr workshop given by Marshall Rosenberg (chopped up in approx 10min segments):
The Basics of Non Violent Communication 1.1
here's the workshop in one file:
FULL - Nonviolent Communication Workshop - Marshall Rosenberg (2000) (Multi Subtitles)
Here are a couple very informative audio interviews:
with Rosenberg (76mins)
with Jorge Rubio, an NVC trainer (40mins)
Another couple highly recommended interviews, which deal with parenting and childhood experiences, were done by Stephanie Bachmann Mattei, CNVC Certified Trainer from Townsend, Massachusetts, USA
direct download links (1st with Kelly Bryson and 2nd with Jorge Rubio):
Various other NVC videos and links:
Here's a half-hour interview with Rosenberg that focuses more on the wider societal/political implications:
Nonviolent Comm. and Corporations-Marshall Rosenberg pt 2
Restorative Justice Nonviolent Communication NVC
(note the talk by Dominic Barter linked in the "About" section)
"Nonviolent Communication(sm) Skill Training presents a collection of simple effective techniques which facilitate cooperation and satisfaction in our communication with others and within ourselves. The use of these skills does not depend on the knowledge or use of the skills by others."
I did eleven episodes on nonviolent communication related to freedom:
I also did an 8-part series on ethics and NVC:
And I did a five-part series on restorative justice and NVC:
When Nonviolent Communication becomes integrated, age-old command-and-control hierarchies can be dissolved. When persons develop NVC fluency in interpersonal and organizational systems, a new stage of consciousness and purposeful group activity can be fostered. This new paradigm is called Teal.
The Future of Management Is Teal - Organizations are moving forward along an evolutionary spectrum, toward self-management, wholeness, and a deeper sense of purpose by Frederic Laloux
Laloux has done much work with many Teal advocates since the book’s publication in 2014, as reflected on this resources page:
My useful highlights from Reinventing Organizations:
Brett Veinotte, who subsequently started his own podcast called School Sucks, and I did a six-part series on the nature of education:
"For the past 10 years or so I have been traveling around the world. I have now been to about 40 countries. I believe I have a lot of experience to share with people. I share many of these experiences freely on my main website EQI.org. I have also been doing a lot of volunteer work, particularlyy with emotionally abused youth. From them I have learned a lot about emotional intelligence and emotional abuse. My writing on these subjects now is in the top 3 on Google in both areas."
"By thinking of family interactions in particular with that in mind [the nature of disagreement], TCS addresses a very important problem: the problem of people in families hurting each other. 'Hurting each other?' queried Wendy. 'Oh I don't think that many parents are into corporal punishment these days, Sarah.' I wasn't particularly talking about corporal punishment, I was just referring to the idea many people have, that for one person to get what she wants, another has to suffer—in other words, not get what she wants. What I am saying is that we can all get what we want. No one enjoys making loved ones suffer. But it doesn't have to be like that.”
The Teenage Liberation Handbook: How to Quit School and Get a Real Life and Education by Grace Llewellyn
"Aware Parenting is a philosophy of child rearing that has the potential to change the world. Based on cutting-edge research and insights in child development, Aware Parenting questions most traditional assumptions about raising children, and proposes a new approach that can profoundly shift a parent's relationship with his or her child. Parents who follow this approach raise children who are bright, compassionate, competent, nonviolent, and drug free."
"Dr. Gottman’s research has also shown that an important element to successful parenting was based on how parents interacted with each other when emotions ran hot. Dr. Gottman and other researchers have observed that children benefit the most when parents have a strong relationship. It isn't so much about staying married for the sake of the kids. Couples need to stay happily married, if they can, in order to help their children. In families where the parents aren't living with each other or are not going to stay married, the parents can best help their children by minimizing their children's exposure to destructive conflict. High levels of parental conflict create emotional distress on the children and decrease effective parenting skills."
John Holt's ideas on learning are definitely in line with intrinsic motivation
"Trashing Teens - Psychologist Robert Epstein argues in a provocative book, 'The Case Against Adolescence,' that teens are far more competent than we assume, and most of their problems stem from restrictions placed on them."
"Working with colleague Diane Dumas, Dr. Epstein has developed a unique and comprehensive test—the Epstein-Dumas Test of Adultness (EDTA)—that measures 14 different competencies that appear to define adult functioning in modern society. Based on scores obtained from tens of thousands of adults and teens, Dr. Epstein recently concluded that American teens are, on the average, just as competent as American adults—and that adults greatly underestimate the abilities of our teens. Epstein and Dumas have also demonstrated a link between 'infantilization'—the extent to which teens are treated like children—and behavioral problems in teens."
The Case Against Adolescence: Rediscovering the Adult in Every Teen
How Harry Found Freedom in an Unfree World by Johnny Kramer
Clinical Psychologist Dr. Ellen Kenner
host of The RATIONAL Basis of Happiness radio show
On Complete Liberty Podcast, I also did a nine-part series on religion: